It’s essential to establish boundaries in all aspects of our lives, including physical, emotional, and mental limits.
Growing up in a household and community where we can express thoughts, feelings, and plans clearly and assertively with each other without fearing judgment. I find it sad that this is not the case for everybody. This approach saves time and avoids “samaan ng loob” when a person tells if he/she cannot be available early on instead of being vague or saying yes even if you really don’t want to. By doing so, we can avoid conflicts and maintain healthy relationships simultaneously. While some things on this list might not be applicable because every life situation or person is unique, I am sharing some ideas that (hopefully) can be helpful for those who might need to set personal boundaries.
Practice saying “no” politely but firmly
Saying “no” can be difficult, especially when we want to please others or avoid conflict. Saying what you have in mind can help us avoid taking on too much. Be honest with your feelings but try to communicate them in a manner that will not offend others. Make sure to think carefully why you wanted to say no. Ask yourself first if the question/or request is valid. You have to evaluate first why you don’t want to engage or do favors first. It can be your current situation, you have personal matter to attend or alot is going on life at the moment. You don’t have to tell every details, just remember to communicate it in a polite a manner. Communication is always the key.
Surround yourself with supportive people who respect your boundaries
Have people with the same values in your circle. When people support our goals and encourage our independence, we can feel confident in ourselves and assert our boundaries with others.
Seek help from a professional if necessary
Sometimes, setting and maintaining boundaries can be challenging, especially if we have a history of trauma or difficulty asserting ourselves. In these cases, seeking help from a therapist or counselor can be beneficial. They can provide guidance and support in navigating these situations and developing healthy communication skills. There is no shame on doing this, they are professional and can give better insight on what you are going through.
Be prepared for resistance but stay firm in communicating your needs
We may encounter resistance or pushback from others. Staying firm in communicating our needs and boundaries while approaching situations with empathy and understanding is essential.
Approach situations with empathy and understanding
We must approach problems with compassion and understanding when we encounter resistance or adverse reactions to our boundaries. By listening to others’ concerns and finding a compromise that works for both, we can maintain healthy relationships and assert our boundaries effectively.
Conclusion
Continuously evaluate and adjust boundaries for healthy relationships and personal well-being. Setting and maintaining boundaries is an ongoing process that requires continuous evaluation and adjustment. By regularly assessing and adjusting them as necessary, we can maintain healthy relationships. So, take the time to reflect on your needs and values, and communicate them clearly to others in a kind and respectful manner.
